This article from the Huffington Post is full of simple and truthful sentiments about high-conflict divorce. I often need reminders of where I've been and where I need to go.
When you're exiting a relationship with someone who prefers things be high-conflict you have to take control of yourself and accept that you cannot control them. It's a hard lesson to learn and it is hard to change your habits/reactions, but it's not impossible.
Therapy and/or a good divorce coach can help you keep the crazy straight in your head so you don't lose sight of the important aspects of the present. The things you CAN control. How to best protect your kids and start living YOUR life. Your ex may want it to be about them, which means the you have the bigger job of making everything about the kids first, and you second.
As a divorcee I can't attest to the value of having emotional support during the divorce process. I was fortunate enough to have found friends who were going through a lot of the same emotions and experiences as I was and we were able to talk one another through our hard times.
Since going through a lengthy, expensive and very high conflict divorce, I have met dozens of people who cannot only relate but also still need to talk to someone about their experience and need someone to help them dissect the situation so they can move forward.
These experiences have lead to me want to develop a divorce coaching arm of done mediation. As can be learned in the article "Divorce Coach: 3 Things a Divorce Coach Can Do For You" on the Huffington Post, utilizing a divorce coach can not only save you a fortune, but with good coaching, you will feel supported and better prepared to begin the new phase of life that comes with divorce.
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Rachel is a single-mom of 4, mediator, entrepreneur and multi-business owner. With a focus on communication, efficiency and proven business practices, she would like to change the world by improving society's emphasis on effective communication, collaboration, understanding and compassion. Let's make the world a better place by being better humans.